4/30

Sexualizing people due to their sexuality is also problematic. The way our society works is that it either villainizes, or it sexualizes oppressed groups. WOC are oversexualized in the media we consume, and MOC are villainized. You can see it in our fandom too. You got every vanilla flavored villain on screen, and it’s still Scott and Deaton that get the most meta proclaiming how sketchy and vicious they are. The same thing works for sexual orientations. Bisexuals are villainized because they’re homewreckers and can’t make up their minds, while homosexual men and women are oversexualized.

By villainizing and sexualizing people, you fail to view them as a complete being. That’s how propaganda works. Women have been dealing with it for centuries, but it goes deeper than some white woman being pissed that a man doesn’t take her thoughts seriously. When I talk about my issue with slash fandom and their sexualization of homosexual men, I talk about my issue with sexualization. It doesn’t have to effect me specifically. If the issue exists, it is everyone’s issue. If you’re only bothered by things that specifically effect you, congratulations, you’re a white feminist.

4/29

I think there’s a vast world of complexity at the core of a lot of our problems, and the issues we deal with when we butt heads with literal strangers to us on the internet. Every person we interact with is at a different stage in their life, and they possess a different set of intelligence than us.

In a perfect world, that’d give us the motive to learn from other people without having to experience those things first hand, some of those things being impossible for us to experience first hand, due to certain attributes we are either born with or born with out.

The general rule on tumblr is that it’s okay to like problematic things, so long as you can stand back and acknowledge that there are problematic aspects in the things you like, regardless of the good shit in it too. It’s the blatant ignorance of the problematic aspects, to the point where you get offended when other people point them out, that causes the issues. Due to the way our society is designed, nearly every thing you like will have problematic aspects to them. Without the toxic history of our world, a lot of the problematic aspects in things wouldn’t exist, but we do have a toxic history, so those aspects do remain problematic.

4/28

It's funny how capital punishment is still such a debatable topic. There are so many arguments as to why it should be legal and why it shouldn't. If you add religion into the discussion you can argue that it is against the Bible that we can't take a life. You can argue that it's the only way to stop killers from killing again. Money is always an issue for tax payers and there are so many reasons to add to it. It's funny how things are though. Why let a convicted serial killer or child molester roam the streets? I mean when they serve parole, they really aren't promised to be kept there forever, good behavior man, it's a bitch. Let's just slice their neck open and pour the blood on a sorority's anchor.

Thank goodness no one actually reads this. Shit could go down if they do.

4/25

If you don’t feel some sort of admiration for Beyoncé, then there is something you are missing. I know, I know I’m joining in with a crowd of people chanting Beyoncé’s name now but this is different. I went to see her live in October, I wasn’t the biggest fan of her music I liked it, but never loved it. I knew that she would perform to the upmost standard but what struck me more than anything is how passionate she was about her music and women power. She is queen and she deserves to be called queen.

4/24

We cannot have a relationship which last long if we cannot handle others. We cannot be into a commitment if what we only think of is ourselves. We cannot be in a relationship full of immature acts. We should take relationships seriously. We should not take it as a joke. Relationships include stupidity, pain, happiness, hurt, anger and love. It affects our personality. It affects our lives. So if you are not mature enough to build a strong relationship, better not to enter one of it. We cannot always please our partner to have patience, we cannot always be the “boss” in a relationship. If we/you are in a relationship, we should not be self-centered, we should forget our own ego, we should forget our pride. Because if we let our pride take over our mind, we will not go beyond what we have today. Or we cannot have a relationship that is worthy.

4/23

Hi, I know I am not a perfect best friend for you. I don’t always treat you lunch, nor I am not the “easy-go-lucky” type. I am not always good-looking. I am just a girl who always have messy hair, not-so-good ambiance, or I am not physically attractive. Like what we always see in movies, I am the weird one and you’re the pretty and hot one. You’re the one who always have boys at your back. And I am just someone who look like your nanny. But you know what? I thank you so much for being there for me every time. I thank you for being the one who always offers their shoulder for me to cry on. Thank you for accepting me for who I am. Thank you for giving me the opportunity to have a friend like you. Thank you for being my best friend. My bests of all friends.

4/22

Everytime I find the perfect man, no one can compare to him. I need to stop trying, he isn't perfect. No guy is.

Dear Me,

Stop waiting for the perfect boy. Stop waiting for your dream guy. He will not come, he is not here either. There’s no such thing as fairy tale and happy endings. There’s no such thing as once upon a time and prince charming. Your life isn’t a book or a novel which give us fantasies. Your life isn’t a 80s movie which drift us away from reality. If you push him away, he’ll not come back. Stop expecting that you’ll be treated as a princess. Stop expecting that your life will be full of happy moments and good ending. Be realistic. Stop assuming and expecting.